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Before you call yourself a queen

I really think the title ‘queen’ has lost it’s meaning over the years. It’s being brutally abused and misused. Today, any Tom, Dick and Harry can call themselves a queen… What exactly are the characteristics of a queen?

Everything starts with the appearance. Looks can be deceiving, I know but, you can’t mistake a woman in a nurse’s uniform for a police officer. There’s no way anyone can mistake a woman in an army uniform for a janitor. We always judge people according to their looks, if you dress like a prostitute, you’re probably one. How does a prostitute dress, go to the streets of Vereeniging after 6pm and you will see how they dress. If you are coming from a business meeting or from church and you are mistaken for a prostitute, then you have to look in the mirror. We can no longer carry on lying to ourselves that ‘my body, my rules‘. We have freedom of dressing yes, but don’t cry foul when you’re judged unfavourably. People are also free to interpret or misinterpret your dressing. If you dress like a whore, you are no queen.

Queens don’t talk anyhow. Queen Esther from the Holy Book respected her husband even when it was only just the two of them. She spoke with humility, she listened to instruction as seen by her obedience to her uncle Mordecai. She was respected, she conducted herself in a respectful manner. You can not be rude, arrogant and raucous and call yourself a queen.

A queen is royalty, a dignified woman of integrity, someone with principles. A woman will have a reputation for lateness, but she’s a queen. You’re always late for appointments and don’t see any need for apologies, but you’re a queen. What are example are you setting for your followers? Some are just plain liars. If you make promises that you don’t keep, you become a liar. Be a woman of your word, for heaven’s sake have some principles.

Then there are the so called queens who go around backstabbing others. What kind of a queen behaves like that? Pretenders who abuse other’s trust. Queens who are jealous of others and try by all means to sabotage other women’s dreams. They are nothing but gossip mongers and trouble instigators, always stirring the hornet’s nest… You are no queen!

The title ‘queen’ is one of the most abused titles. There are responsibilities and expectations that need to be met. If you want to call yourself a queen, research on previous queens and their characters. Look at female leaders and see what makes them great leaders.

Then again, there are also queen’s in the kingdom of darkness, the devil’s advocates pushing evil agendas… your reputation precedes you. It’s not in the name, it’s in the character.

What kind of a queen are you?

This write up is the opinion of the author.

About Constance van Niekerk

Constance van Niekerk, (Connie V) is a creative writer, poet, music lover, spoken word artist, freelance writer, blogger and educator. She has contributed to several anthologies and published her own collection, Echoes of My Heart: A Poetry Collection available for purchase on all Amazon Stores Worldwide. Follow her on Twitter : @convanniekerk Connect with her on Facebook and Linkedin.


3 thoughts on “Before you call yourself a queen

  1. Sorry, Connie. But I disagree. I think we shoulsd judge on principles, on actions, nothing else. On that basis, appearance is unimportant.
    As for Thatcher, she preached greed. Is that really what we want to be teaching our children?


    Posted by Mister Bump UK | Nov 29, 2021, 12:13
  2. Being a queen comes with responsibility but unfortunately any women can call her self a queen whether she deserves the title or not but any way people sees any beautiful and respectful women as a queen 👑


    Posted by tsepoimpactor | Dec 7, 2021, 13:18

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