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A Fatherless Generation

According to research conducted by the Human Sciences Research Council (HSRC) and the South African Race Relations Institute (SARRI), sixty percent of SA children have absent fathers, and more than 40 percent of South African mothers are a single parents.

Black children between the ages 0-17 years old were the least likely to stay with their biological fathers than their peers of other racial groups.

Single motherhood is becoming more prevalent in Southern Africa particularly among the black community. This is actually a cause for concern.

According to the Borgen Project:

There are psychological consequences for children in fatherless households as well as financial strains. Research has found that boys who grow up with absent fathers are more likely to display aggression and other hyper-masculine behaviors, which increases their risk for unhealthy relationships, crime and addiction. Fatherless girls are more likely to engage in high-risk sexual behaviors, experience an unwanted pregnancy or find themselves in an abusive relationship. These consequences propagate the cycle of fatherless homes.

Borgen Project

Most of us are not single mothers by design. To portray single parenting as glamorous is a distortion of the truth. It is probably one of the contributing factors of the high crime rate among the black people and the reason for the high moral decay in our society today. It is far from being glamorous. It is not the in-thing and should not be painted as such.

Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: A Fatherless Generation (part 1) https://anchor.fm/connie-v2/episodes/A-Fatherless-Generation-part-1-e161udk

Statistics South Africa unpacked alarming trends that have an impact on children’s education and well-being.

In a report released in February, StatsSA revealed that most “children in South Africa live in non-standard family structures with mostly one of their biological parents.”The research, which was conducted in 2018, revealed that a majority of families had twice as many children living with their mothers compared to those living with their biological fathers (76% and 36,4%, respectively).

Among the various population groups in South Africa, only 31.7% of Black children are raised with their biological fathers at home. This is compared to compared to 51.3% coloured children, 86.1% Indian or Asian children and 80.2% of white children. Read more on News24

Black women will be, ‘I’m proudly a single mother’, I beg! It is not something to be proud of. It might be inevitable but definitely not an achievement. Why do black women downplay the role of men in the community and households? It takes two to create a human being. A man and a woman. And it takes two to raise a wholesome human being. Black women need to stop treating the black man like a nonentity. This is why there’s so much anger and violence among the men. Men need to be appreciated and shown love too. Even if things don’t work out, it doesn’t make a man an enemy. Where there are kids involved, he remains the father to those kids. Even after divorce, mothers should teach the children to respect their fathers. Matters between a husband and wife should not spill to the children. It has nothing to do with them. It is childish to badmouth one parent to the children. This is leading to serious moral decay. Children no longer have any respect for their fathers, absent or present simply because of what their mothers tell them.

THE WORLD NEEDS A FATHER

Bob Marley said:

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds.

Africa might be free from colonialism but emancipation is still a pipe dream. No one is coming to save us, we have to free ourselves. It is said, UNITED WE STAND, DIVIDED WE FALL. Disunity is the tool that we ourselves are using for our own destruction. If we as black people can learn to be united in our society, Africa will be a better place to live in. Unity is needed and it starts in the home.

About Constance van Niekerk

Constance van Niekerk, (Connie V) is a creative writer, poet, music lover, spoken word artist, freelance writer, blogger and educator. She has contributed to several anthologies and published her own collection, Echoes of My Heart: A Poetry Collection available for purchase on all Amazon Stores Worldwide. Follow her on Twitter : @convanniekerk Connect with her on Facebook and Linkedin.

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  1. — “This is compared to compared to 51.3% coloured children, 86.1% Indian or Asian children and 80.2% of white children.”

    I’m interested, is the word “coloured” an accepted description there? What does it mean?
    The word used to be used here, meaning basically “anybody who wasn’t white”, which as you can imagine is quite outdated now. But is it still common parlance in South Africa?
    The article makes me wonder, are human beings actually designed to live as family units? I wonder, is that how our ancestors lived a million years ago? I don’t know the answer.

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    Posted by Mister Bump UK | Aug 22, 2021, 09:29

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