Written by Mudhara Tindo
Love is still wanting to hold someone after you climax. After the initial euphoria from the orgasm wears off, you’re filled with a sense of calm rather than a panic. You don’t want to hear someone asking, “Ko wamboona bhrugwa rangu?” (Have you seen my underwear). Even fake a text and figure out the best way to tell them, “See ya later forever!” Naaaaaah! You’re fine with chilling out in bed with the person and maybe ordering ka pizza later.
Love is unattractive. It can expose our worst traits: jealousy, irrational fears, heated anger, a gang of all emotions all up in here, your heart! While it can bring out compassion and tenderness, it can also make you behave like an idiot, the ugliest version of yourself even want to give it all up be asexual or even change your sexual orientation. That can be okay for a little while but, real love conquers all.
Love is not afraid. There’s a reason why the most popular love songs are so lyrically simple. You can drown it in metaphors all you want but love usually boils down to, “You make me so happy. I want to hold your hand. I just want u to be mine forever!” You can be a 50-year-old linguistics professor at Africa University and still find something to relate to in a Leonard Dembo Chitekete song or Kurwizi by our beloved Betty Makaya. It can be a James Blunt or Mariah Carey ballard even, if you’re in love the feelings are so universal. It’s humbling, isn’t it?
Love is fucking stupid and smart because it’s all about betraying yourself, compromising your ideals for someone else’s approval everyday. That’s actually the bad kind of love but, I guess it all blurs together when you’re young or when you’re old or when you don’t love yourself.
Love is your significant other telling you about their favorite album and then making a point to fall in love with it on your own wondering why your better half loves certain things, thinking you can find remnants of them in their favorite films, books and songs, but you usually can’t. It’s about finding yourself feeling protective over someone else’s well-being. It’s being incensed with rage when someone or something has done your lover wrong. It’s all about wanting your partner to cum.
All round it’s never selfish if it’s real love.
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