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Truly, every dark cloud has a silver lining

I started blogging and freelance writing in 2012. It was my way of escaping a toxic marriage. I’d put all my mind into writing and gardening. If it wasn’t for the abusive hubby, I would probably not have discovered that I loved writing. It was this discomfort that led me to discover something about myself. I believe that’s why it’s said, ‘every dark cloud has a silver lining’. Even a bad situation can bring about great results! My then husband did all he could to stop me from writing. He loathed seeing me on the PC.

Every dark cloud

has a silver lining

One of my workmates, Rika Fagan was retiring and she gave me my first computer just before she relocated to the sea. I’ll never forget that! She gave me my big break into writing. I wrote articles for The Southern Times (Namibia) and bought my first printer with the money. It’s actually my only printer! Sometimes I wrote articles with tears streaming down my face. I was insulted, at one time he tripped the electricity for the entire house just to stop me from writing. My friends at work Annemarie De Wet, Wena Venter, Lizette van Der Merwe and Ronel Pretorius would encourage me to keep on writing. I’d tell them that I couldn’t continue but they would tell me to keep writing.

Haters will hate, coz that’s what haters do. Stars will keep shining coz that’s what stars do

It wasn’t easy, I wanted to take the easy way out and allow my ex to win but, my friends would not let me. I kept on writing and before I knew it, doors were opening. In 2016, I performed one of my poems in Johannesburg. It was my first time doing spoken word. I had noone to celebrate this milestone with me, except the knowledge that my friends where behind me.

Challenges are just there to groom us.

I’m so glad I never gave up. Today I can proudly say, I’m a writer, simply because I did not allow adversity to stop me.

Never allow anyone to take away your dreams.

It’s not easy to keep going in the face of adversity, but it’s worth it in the end. I’m not bitter, I got better and better with my writing. I’m quite grateful for the lessons and the doors that opened for me because of adversity. Adversity is really vital for advancement! Nothing at all ever grows in the comfort zone.

About Constance van Niekerk

Constance van Niekerk, (Connie V) is a creative writer, poet, music lover, spoken word artist, freelance writer, blogger and educator. She has contributed to several anthologies and published her own collection, Echoes of My Heart: A Poetry Collection available for purchase on all Amazon Stores Worldwide. Follow her on Twitter : @convanniekerk Connect with her on Facebook and Linkedin.


5 thoughts on “Truly, every dark cloud has a silver lining

  1. I’m glad you found your gift through this difficult time 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

    Posted by Don't Lose Hope | Jun 17, 2020, 15:59
  2. It’s strange, isn’t it? You’d think in a marriage, you encourage each other to grow. It should be automatic that you have your partner’s support in everything you do.

    Liked by 1 person

    Posted by Mister Bump UK | Jun 17, 2020, 18:42
  3. Super proud of you Connie!Keep going👏

    Liked by 1 person

    Posted by Maureen Nyasha Hove | Jun 20, 2020, 07:09

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