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5 biggest turn offs for women

Women are not as complicated as men say (every chance they get)! We’re the simplest beings and quite easy to please. Let me tell you the 5 biggest turn offs for women, from my own experience.

1. Lying

For me, lying is top of the list. Women have this 6th sense, even if we can’t prove that you are lying, we know when men are lying. When men repeatedly lie, women stop trusting men and begin a mission to discover whatever they think men are hiding. Women become suspicious over every little thing. Men think women nag, not at all, just be honest with us. Whatever you are hiding, we will find out anyway πŸ˜‚ And it won’t be pretty ☺️

2. Laziness

For some reason men think women were created to clean up after them… Being a helper means you’re doing something and the woman is helping. Clean up after yourself and I will meet you halfway! What are you teaching our children? That boys can mess all they want and spend the day on video games and watching television while girls clean up the whole day? I don’t mind cleaning the house, the dishes or whatever but, you mess, you clean! A woman is a helper, not a cleaner. More and more women are now working from home. How do we get anything done when all we’re doing is cleaning the house. Dirty clothes go to the laundry basket. Surely, God gave you hands for a reason! When you are done consuming your alcohol, put away the empty bottles. If I wake up before you, please make the bed. It’s not too much to ask. Your shoes cannot be lying around the house like ornaments 😁😁 And surely, you can also bath the kids once in a while. Do please be considerate and make sure we also have alone times, we need them!

3. Vision-less

The Bible says where there is no vision, the people perish. Marriages are perishing because there is no vision. The man is content with his 9-5 job, coming home to be glued to the television and drinking every weekend or watch more television. A man who doesn’t care where he will be in the future, as long as he is comfortable right now is a man without direction. Have a vision, have goals, have ambition, have a direction in life… Don’t live a life of ‘so long I’m alive’. Have dreams and let’s work together to achieve them, how about that?

4. Screaming/ shouting

Being a woman is not easy. We have funny hormones, at times it feels like there’s another person living inside us, right women? When we get emotional and talk loudly at you, don’t turn it into a screaming competition! I’m certainly not saying it’s okay for women to shout at men, but your reaction gives direction to the confrontation. Your reaction says whether you will sleep on the couch tonight or experience some make-up something. There must be someone who remains calm during the storm. As the head of the house, we expect that person to be you, men. I simply am turned off by a man who shouts during an argument….

5. Selfishness

Being selfish is a huge turn off. A man who is always thinking of ‘me me me me’ is a big no’ no’. It’s all about what he wants, never considering his partner’s feelings. He is always talking about his work, never asking about his partner’s work. Always talking about his dreams, his children, his mother his this and that. Men, don’t make everything about you, even the lovemaking is all about you. This is why many men are clueless about their partners. Take time to listen and learn about your partner’s likes, hates and well, turn offs. 😁

About Constance van Niekerk

Constance van Niekerk, (Connie V) is a creative writer, poet, music lover, spoken word artist, freelance writer, blogger and educator. She has contributed to several anthologies and published her own collection, Echoes of My Heart: A Poetry Collection available for purchase on all Amazon Stores Worldwide. Follow her on Twitter : @convanniekerk Connect with her on Facebook and Linkedin.


3 thoughts on “5 biggest turn offs for women

  1. Great post πŸ™‚

    Liked by 1 person

    Posted by Passport Overused | Jan 2, 2020, 17:53
  2. ys it is true ! be always a good listener


    Posted by Ullas | Feb 14, 2020, 12:26

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